Dear Libby,

Three months ago, I started dating a really cute guy I met while shopping at Downtown Market. I couldn’t reach a box of mac & cheese on the top shelf, and he happened to be looking for the same exact item. He grabbed one for him and one for me. I thanked him, and we chatted for a bit about our shared love of mac & cheese, and also how we both adore the Smashing Pumpkins. He asked for my number, and since he seemed really sweet, I gave it to him.

We went on a couple of dates that went really great, so we agreed to be exclusive. As far as I know, he never cheated on me, but looking back, I can see some stuff that was really suss. I was so excited about the relationship (he was my first real boyfriend since high school) that I couldn’t wait to introduce him to my BFF. They got along great too, and had a really similar sense of humor. They would text weird memes back and forth all the time, but they didn’t really chat.

After two months together, he sat me down and said he liked me a lot, but he didn’t think we had enough chemistry. He said he didn’t get butterflies in his stomach when he saw me, and hanging out felt more like chilling with a friend than a girlfriend. I was heartbroken, but I understood he was just being honest, which I appreciated. And that was that. One failed relationship down, who knows how many more to go.

But it turns out that WASN’T that. Five days ago, my BFF called and said we needed to talk about something. SHE was now dating MY EX-BF!!!!! Obviously they’re both adults and are allowed to date whoever they want, but I feel like when you’re best friends with someone, if you expect to stay best friends, you can’t go dating their ex-BF of less than a month. My BFF is telling me I have no right to be mad at her, and I had to block my ex because he texted me a whole nasty rant about how much I’ve upset my BFF. Am I in the wrong here? What should I do?

–A Really Pissed Off Ex-Girlfriend

Dear “A Really Pissed Off Ex-Girlfriend,”

Do you really think any of the nonsense you just spewed at me actually matters? Who cares if your BFF is dating your EX-BF? They probably got together behind your back while you were dating anyway. I’m so tired of these idiotic letters! None of it matters! Just let it go. Let your ex go, let your BFF go, let your family go, let your job go, let your hobbies go, let your Netflix subscription go. Just don’t let your cat go. Cats are for cuddling until the end of time.

–Lovingly, Libby